what would you do

if your boyfriend, girlfriend, or partner gave you an STD, let alone two viruses such as HPV and herpes?? would you stay or leave?

@12kyle- if she gave me ONE virus she has betta stay away from me. She might get kilt! And yes... I said kilt! LOL

@andrayarenay- hell no i wouldnt stay, if he gave a damn about my life he wouldnt be raw doggin another. He aint worth my life!!! if he gave me 2 STD's and they are not fatal, clearly I been blessed! How many warnings u need? If thats accepted someone needs therapy

@r_latice- No. NO. and HELL no! Clearly they arent concerned with their well being because they arent using protection with other hoes. SMH!

@mzpreciousF- Now I got friends and family dealing with both. I struggle with this because if you already got it, you might as well stay together. Then again, I would be angry at the mere thought of it and I probably spaz out.

@missannabanna- hell no because they have no respect for you or your well being

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i need some of this...

this && this right here....

i need some of all that above and more. i want intimacy with no regards to the outside world.... yeah, that sounds good to me!

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lets talk about it pt.2

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lets talk about it

a couple of months ago i asked some of my female friends some simple but random questions about sex and sexual health. fortunately i was lucky enough to get some open and honest answers. thanks so much to precious, charis, _supastarrr, and stefanie for particapting. i love you much ladies and once again thanks so much for your honest answers.

Q: how often do you have sex? and how often would you like to have sex?

P1- not often. i dont have sex unless i am in a relationship or a relationship that we are the only one having sex with one another.

P2- whenever i can and i am doing decent right now

P3- lately, because my boyfriend is one state over, sex does not come often, AT ALL! we've been together 9 months and we've had sex once. before we got together i was celibate for a year, and i was perfectly fine with it. if it were up to me, i would have sex about 2-3 times a week.

P4- two times weekly. i would love to have it at least three times

P5- i have sex maybe once a week. it all depends on the mood of my boyfriend and myself. i would love to have sex at least five times a week. we used to have sex everyday. i miss that

Q: are you okay/ satisfied with the amount of sexual partners that you have/had? why or why not?

P1- very. 3 partners is a low amount considering most my age have triple that number. i take great pride in that number

P2- yes, its not alot

P3- i am perfectly fine with the amount of sexual partners i have had, i mean i can count them all on one hand, and for 25 years old female in todays worls, i think thats DAMN good... lol.. im proud of myself!

P4-yes i am content. i had three male and one female. i dont feel attracted to penis anymore other than my husband. so im staying at three

P5- yes i am content. i can count on one hand. i pray that my boyfriend is my last partner, but if not i will only have sex with one other person: my future husband

Q:do you get tested for hiv/aids and other stds annually? if not annually when was the last time?

P1- yes i do

P2-6 months ago

P3-yes i do, i make sure of it every annual i have

P4-i get tested every six months. i need to know for my kids, husband and myself

P5- i do every six months. last time was in august though

Q:why or why not have you chosen to get tested?

P1- because its the responsible thing to do. i never have a sexual relationship with someone unless they get tested with me.

P2- because i dont want to die over dick

P3- i have chosen to get tested because i mean its only fair to my future partner(s), the safety of them and for myself. its only fair, its out of respect for life and love

P4-knowing your status is very important. who wants to be left out in the dark? scared? worried?

P5-ive chosen to get tested because it is important to know your status and your health. if you are blind to what is going on with you, you cant help yourself. its a scary thought to know that you may have something especially hiv, herpes, etc. but its better to know than to not know at all.

Q:Do you know anyone with an std such as herpes, hpv, or hiv?

P1- yes

P2- no

P3- i know someone with herpes

P4- yes i know someone with herpes and hiv. its a scary thing but they are living healthy lives

P5- yes i do. i know two with herpes and a couple with hpv. hpv has become promenent especially in the college community because people fail to realize its from skin contact, it has nothing to do with the use of condoms. luckily it clears on its own.

Q: have you yourself ever contracted an std?

P1- no

P2- no

P3- no i have not

P4- no i havent. i got a yeast infection and thought i had one. i was young. i started freaking out.. lol

P5- i did before. i contracted chlamydia when i was nineteen. i was devastated.

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ladies night- sex shop

so saturday was ladies night for me and my girls.. i just love my girls. nothing like true friends anyway we went to atlantic station in atlanta and went to a restaurant called strips. anyone who is the atlanta area who hasnt been there already need to go check it out their food is good... now i swore up and down that i will never have sushi but i ended up trying it and i must say it was delicious.. i tried two different types of sushi and they were both tasty.. taste alot better with the eel sauce though.. we also had crab cakes, shrimp, and all.. it was really good. the sushi is very afforable too, only like 4 or 5 dollars depending on which one you get. after we ate dinner we left atlantic station and went to this bar thats near georgia tech and we took a couple of shots. we were gonna go to the strip club but ended up not going.. well we were on our way and then we got distracted by the sex toy shop... yeahhhh buddy my kind of party.... like dudes i like sex (safe sex that is) i enjoy sex (safe sex) and so you know me and my friends are not shy to walk up into a strip club or sex store.. ( ok fell off topic for a while) anyway so we was on our way to club wax.. those of yall who familiar with atlanta already know its off fulton industrial those of you who arent.. well now you know where its at.. boww go visit.. anywho so we was at the light to turn up the street to get up to club wax when on my right i spot... STARSHIP... thats the sex store... we dead ass pulled a U- turn and was on our way to starship.. imma tell you this from now if i had my own place with no roommates like i do now my place would be a sex paradise i tell you.. first thing i noticed was the sex swing.. i want me one of those (birthday list.. check) right.. anywho if yall need to update your sex toys, vibrators, bullets, cock rings, etc. collection yall need to head over there asapidly.. almost all the toys are 30-50% off which was great for me because i bought me a vibrator whose originall price was 15 and i got it for 7 and some change. shit 15 wasnt high to begin with but hell 7 is even better.. you dont think? my homegirl ended up getting the vibrating cock ring and a vibrator thats smaller than the size of a key.. when going into the store i was originally look for the vibrating cock ring but t said he aint down with it.. *shrugs* oh well.. and on top of that im celibate.. now i wont lie to you if he would agreed to use it, all celibacy promises would of went out the window.. i want to try it so bad, i heard its the shit.... but then i got to thinking if it vibrates isnt it like a dildo, vibrator.. but then i started thinking harder and came to the conclusion that it has to be fifteen times better cause you got your dude pumping you in and out of you as hard or soft as u want him to....

just imagine.(eyes closed) dude fucking your guts out just in and out in and out while you playing with your clit.. you starting to feel like damn this shit is good.. he biting on your nipples and sucking them dumb hard. interchanging between right nipple and left nipple.. start to fuck you harder and a little faster.. getting rougher with it ( i like that shit) you take your finger from between your legs and put it in his mouth.. tell him to taste you.. how that taste baby?? *insert his response* now imagine all this all the while you have an added stimulation of vibration... omg my body tingling thinking of this shit (now i want to have crazy drunk sex tonight.. dammit) but im saying that vibrating cock ring got to be the shit.. it just has to be.

anyway back to my story so i am no longer a sex toy virgin.. i purchased my first toy and boy it is amazing. i never understood what people was talking about when they toys is sometimes better than dick.. like dead ass that shit put me straight to bed last night.. talking about woke up still naked with it just laying on my bed between my legs.... that shit was *eye rolling* AMAZING.. you hear me FREAKING AMAZING... ladies before you do anything else go get you a vibrator (at least four speeds) before you leave the store make sure it vibrates good and heavy.. and dudes get that damn vibrating cock ring put your pride aside and please your woman. oh and i received a free porn dvd with my purchase.. got all the stars: pinky, cherokee, lacy duvalle, ricko suave, beauty dior, etc. its a good dvd.. that was just my extra bonus.. haha oh and before i forget my new dude is pink (my favorite color)

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sex game tight

so i was on supastarrr blog and she had a post about chocking while having sex, some said they aint into that shit. i personally second her motion cause i love that shit. .. here are my do's and dont's when having sex.

do's:

eat that p****

pull my hair

slap my ass

chocking

taking the lead

light tap on my face (dont try to ike me)

cursing

direct and demand

ice

pay attention to my body

donts:

pull my hair if my sew in is less than two weeks.. that means its brand new and my tracks are still tight

anal... no jookie jookie in that hole.. sorry

threesomes... no bueno.. sorry im not bi nor do i choose to bring a third party into my bed.. mom always told me that was a no fucking no "never invite someone else into your bedroom"

slap in my face so hard my head do a 36o

if we fucking (fucking and love making are two different things) dont take me to the bed.. bedroom sex is so boring and overrated

hot wax.. that shit hurts

ummm i think thats about it. what are some of yall do's and dont's?

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personal decision

last night i made a personal decision to abstain from sex and remain celibate until i find the one that i feel is right for me. now im not saying i am remaining celibate till marriage, i will remain celibate until i am involved in a long term commitment. this decision was not an easy one but it was not hard either. i have not had sex since august 10th (yes i mark on my calender when i have sex), and this is because of one or three reasons: 1. been busy with school 2. i been questioning my relations/relationship with this guy 3. i have been thinking of all the new shit that is going around. for the past couple of months i dont know what has been going on with me, but i am viewing life and the value of it in a different light. i dont think the same way that i did 6 months ago. my decision to go and remain celibate has been in the works since august because before then i hadnt had sex since january, but it wasnt until last night when i was doing my post for aids walk atlanta did i solidify my decision. now my decision is not solely on the basis of aids and std's (although they do play a huge role) my decision was one that i chose because i feel that i myself is borderline addicted to sex, i rely on it too much and i dont think that is good. i do not sleep around with random men, that has never been my style, still can count on one hand how many men i have been with but i do enjoy sex and have to have it. i used to call it sexual liberation (like chick from girlfriends) but then i started to view it as a problem when the subject of sex took up my thought process for the majority of the day. my boyfriend is upset with me but i really dont care what the thinks, this is my decision and a final decision. if he cant understand it then he can go, there is nothing holding him back, but i wont be having sex.
for the past couple of years i have continuously heard the statistics amongst african american and women with hiv/aids. i knew what they were but for some reason i never really took heed to them like i did last night. maybe because i am a visual learner and the words meant nothing to me until i seen the side by side comparison and graphs of hiv/aids cases of african americans compared to any other race but it scared the shit out of me last night. here are the stats:

HIV/AIDS in 2007 

Blacks accounted for 51% of the 42, 655 (including children) new HIV/AIDS diagnoses in 34 states with long-term, confidential name-based HIV reporting.
Blacks accounted for 48% of the 551,932 persons* (including children) living with HIV/AIDS in 34 states with long-term, confidential name-based HIV reporting.
For black women living with HIV/AIDS, the most common methods of transmission were high-risk heterosexual contact** and injection drug use.
For black men living with HIV/AIDS, the most common methods of HIV transmission were (in order):
sexual contact with other men
injection drug use
high-risk heterosexual contact.

STATISTICS FOR WOMEN

Today, women account for more than one quarter of all new HIV/AIDS diagnoses. Women of color are especially affected by HIV infection and AIDS. In 2004 (the most recent year for which data are available), HIV infection was

• the leading cause of death for black women (including African American women) aged 25–34 years.
• the 3rd leading cause of death for black women aged 35–44 years.
• the 4th leading cause of death for black women aged 45–54 years.
• the 4th leading cause of death for Hispanic women aged 35–44 years.

In the same year, HIV infection was the 5th leading cause of death among all women aged 35–44 years and the 6th leading cause of death among all women aged 25–34 years. The only diseases causing more deaths of women were cancer and heart disease. Of the 126,964 women living with HIV/AIDS, 64% were black, 19% were white, 15% were Hispanic, 1% were Asian or Pacific Islander, and less than 1% were American Indian or Alaska Native.

Race/ethnicity of women with HIV/AIDS diagnosed during 2005 Transmission categories and race/ethnicity of women living with HIV/AIDS at the end of 2005

	Diagnosis of HIV/AIDS in females aged 15-39 years
	2001		2004
	No.	(%)*	No.	(%)*
White	1,218	(63)	996	(56)
Black	5,229	(62)	4,091	(58)
Hispanic	1,192	(60)	819	(57)
Asian/Pacific Islander	31	(55)	62	(66)
American Indian/Alaska Native	23	(52)	39	(68)

STATISTICS FOR YOUTH

HIV/AIDS in 2004

• An estimated 4,883 young people received a diagnosis of HIV infection or AIDS, representing about 13% of the persons given a diagnosis during that year [1].
• HIV infection progressed to AIDS more slowly among young people than among all persons with a diagnosis of HIV infection. The following are the proportions of persons in whom HIV infection did not progress to AIDS within 12 months after diagnosis of HIV infection:
  • 81% of persons aged 15–24
  • 70% of persons aged 13–14
  • 61% of all persons
• African Americans were disproportionately affected by HIV infection, accounting for 55% of all HIV infections reported among persons aged 13–24 [2].
• Young men who have sex with men (MSM), especially those of minority races or ethnicities, were at high risk for HIV infection. In the 7 cities that participated in CDC’s Young Men’s Survey during 1994–1998, 14% of African American MSM and 7% of Hispanic MSM aged 15–22 were infected with HIV.
• During 2001–2004, in the 33 states with long-term, confidential name-based HIV reporting, 62% of the 17,824 persons 13–24 years of age given a diagnoses of HIV/AIDS were males, and 38% were females.

Age of persons with HIV infection or AIDS diagnosed during 2004

Note. Based on data from 35 areas with long-term, confidential name-based HIV reporting.

AIDS in 2004

• An estimated 2,174 young people received a diagnosis of AIDS (5.1% of the estimated total of 42,514 AIDS diagnoses), and 232 young people with AIDS died.
• An estimated 7,761 young people were living with AIDS, a 42% increase since 2000, when 5,457 young people were living with AIDS.
• Young people for whom AIDS was diagnosed during 1996–2004 lived longer than persons with AIDS in any other age group except those younger than 13 years. Nine years after receiving a diagnosis of AIDS, 76% of those aged 13–24 were alive, compared with
  • 81% of those younger than age 13
  • 74% of those aged 25–34
  • 70% of those aged 35–44
  • 63% of those aged 45–54
  • 53% of those aged 55 and older.
• Since the beginning of the epidemic, an estimated 40,059 young people in the United States had received a diagnosis of AIDS, and an estimated 10,129 young people with AIDS had died. They accounted for about 4% of the estimated total of 944,306 AIDS diagnoses and 2% of the 529,113 deaths of people with AIDS. 

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dry spell

i haven't had sex in over a month... this is ridiculous... last time i had any action was before my birthday so that was in august. it is now october... arghhh so not cool. there is but so much a porno and my personal friend can do before i need the real thing. but this is a personal problem i know. i have been too busy to have sex, school work and school... and again... school.. work and school it never ends. i study my school work like crazy now its time for me to study the human body again cause i do enjoy that. used to be my favorite subject lol.. ok getting too much in tmi mode.. but def need to do that as soon as possible... was planning on this weekend but HE and i got into an argument last night and now he is upset with me.

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lost virginity

it seems as though during the summer is when people, especially young folks lose their virginity the most... don't know what it is but it happens. the summer i lost my virginity was the summer i was going from the ninth grade to the tenth grade. i remember it was about six days before my fifteenth birthday, heres my story:

he and i have known each other for most of our lives,we grew up together when we first met i was five and he was ten (yes we known each other that long). i started to become attracted to him when i was about eleven (hormones started acting up, period was about to start) but i never really said or did anything about it. i remember my mom used to tell me to stay away from him (we lived three doors down from one another) because he was too old and a trouble maker. when i got older around thirteen, fourteen it got worst. my balls grew bigger and he was a lot more blatant with his approach towards me.  he always watched me from his window, he would come to my school after the day was over and walk back or take the bus with me back home, bought me things here and there, etc. at that time it was just talking and harmless flirting, nothing major. he was in high school and i was still in junior high. he started dating this girl named debora... she hated me and i never knew why but thinking back i guess it was because she knew that i was after her boyfriend (well at the time i didnt know i was after him just liked him)

fast forward to a year and some months later... it was the summer of 2003 and i was getting ready to head to the 10th grade. he and i had started dating but it was nothing too serious at least for me because i was no fool i knew he was talking to other females as i other guys, we were in two different age groups. by the time august came around we had been dating for three maybe four months... for some reason that summer the tension between he and i was high.. and i was hot.... the day i lost my virginity was six days before my fifteenth birthday. i still remember it like it was yesterday. anyway we had been flirting heavy the entire week. spending more time at his house than usual, he taking me different places, going out together away from the neighborhood more than we usually do. not even taking age into consideration like we did before.. we really wasn't even think about the age difference at this point. the day before i lost my virginity for some reason i was super A. i went to his house and kind of just through myself on him. i couldn't even believe that i came at him like that, i mean i never kissed anyone until that day and i was surprised with myself. anyway after about an hour of foundling, kissing,and alot of  touching i jumped up and i went home. the next day came my mom had left for work around seven like she usually do, i let her out gave her a kiss and went back to bed. i am deep in my sleep and around 11 oclock i hear a knock out my door. my bedroom window faced the front of apt complex so i can see whoever was at my door. i peaked through my blinds and there he was. in my head i am like oh sh*t but i got up fixed my hair real quick and opened the door. he came up with some b.s excuse that he wanted to borrow a pen and phonebook. i gave it to him and went back to bed. an hour later he comes back admits that it was phony and that he wanted to see me. so i let him in, we sitting there talking and chilling and out of nowhere he starts kissing me, the young me done forgot what we did the day before and i couldnt remember how to kiss. he is tugging at my clothes and i was like whoa back up. no sooner had i said that i was just like you might as well go for it you been eyeing this guy for years so i did... he was gentle but i never expected losing my virginity would feel like that. it was so much pain and so much blood. i remember he had to keep bringing me back to him and he had to keep grabbing me because i kept running off the bed, at one point i was half way off the bed, my entire top half of my body was hanging off. i don't even think we had sex for ten minutes. i jumped up out of the bed walked really slowly to the bathroom and took a long hot shower. 

the day i lost my virginity was one of the worst days ever... never again

in all honesty i wish i never would of had sex that day at that time, but i would never change who i had sex with

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12:38 and missing mr. t

omg it is 12:39 and i am horny as hell... of course i cant call t because once again he pissed me off today so i put him on time out.. i know he wanted me to stay with him tonight, i can tell he wanted it bad it was all in his eyes... but gosh instead of punishing him i am punishing myself.... gosh i hate this little cat and mouse game thingy he plays....damn im picturing it in my head what we would be into now and its making me want him more.. i think im just gonna go to bed.. late night boredom is a sin.. and "cravings" are deadly

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SEXUAL IDENTITY

ok so i like sex. i dont consider myself a whore, slut or any of the many names you people have out their now a days. but i do enjoy the act of sex and all the intails. i enjoy the uninhibited actions that my partner and i take part in with one another. now lets not get it twisted i do not sleep around with multiple people. i have sex with one person. but i sometimes feel like my sex drive or my "cravings" might be higher than normal. i mean sometimes it scares the shit out of me. now me and my boo, mr.t (who is also the only man i am currently having sex with) both have high sex drives and when i first met him i thought he was a sex crazed freaky bastard but hell for the past couple of months i feel like my drive is higher than his. so what does that make me? lol....i mean there is no shame in my game, but is this normal? if it were up to me i would literally do it just about all day everyday but with my school schedule, his job, and our family obligations we just dont have the time. but gosh we would love to..and the sex is great. i mean he is the best i have ever experienced.. sometimes i do not want to leave that d*ck alone. when i go out of town i be sad....haha...i enjoy my experiences with him because we have fun with it and i think a large part of it has to deal with the fact that i am so comfortable with him. i have never felt this comfortable with anyone in my life. my question to you is this, is your sex drive as high as mine? and do you enjoy sex with your partner?

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