some advice


...that i gave to a friend
"HELL NO!!! DONT LET THAT FUCKER HAVE YOUR HEART. HE DOES NOT DESERVE YOU LET ALONE YOUR HEART.. DONT GIVE HIM THE POWER. YOUR HEART IS NOT A TOY, IT IS NOT GOLD, IT IS NOT PLATINUM...IT IS PRICELESS...NEVER GIVE IT TO SOMEONE UNDESERVING. DONT EVER"
i told my friend this after she told me that her ex boyfriend who did some grimey shit, and she is brave enough to still love him "he'll always be my heart REGARDLESS too." when she said that i almost wanted to cry.i think that those who can let go after heart break are strong people, but i honestly feel like those who can still love a person after they have been betrayed (in whatever form) are the strongest. it takes alot for someone to still love someone and admit that to themselves and others after being lied to and cheated on.
now dont get me wrong no relationship is perfect, we will all have our problems, now and in the future because when you have two different people, you will have two different views on everything, but there are certain things that no one should have to deal with, which includes being cheated on, lied to, and abused in any form.
for some reason we have alot of bullshit going on in relationships nowadays. the male species is not willing to step up and become real men and females are just settling and just accepting anything. something is wrong with that. i cant speak for the men but as females we cant allow them (the male species) to treat us any old way and still have the gift of our heart. its like rewarding a child for bad behavior. you cant do it. when our guys act up and we still choose to deal with them, have sex with them, cater to them, and allow them access to our heart, we arent sending the message that we love them and down for whatever... we are sending a message that we stand for nothing and will allow anything... behavior like this shows them that we arent strong enough to stand on our own and wait for the right man. and since we arent willing to wait for the right man deserving of all that we are, we will settle for anything and all the bullshit that comes with it. you cant sarifice yourself, your heart and your happiness and expect to be okay. love is a choice. yes we choose to love someone just like we choose to deal with them. i say this because when we first meet someone we dont automatically love them, we hang out with them learn things about them, we choose what good qualities we love about them and that allows us to further love them as a whole. so if loving and dealing is a choice, then we need to choose to raise our requirements and ultimately keep our heart until the RIGHT MAN comes around who is worth it all.
SO DONT EVER JUST GIVE SOMEONE YOUR HEART.. ESPECIALLY THOSE WHO ARE UNDESERVING OF YOUR HEART AND ALL THAT YOU OFFER... YOU ARE PRICELESS
and this goes for both men and women..

3 comments:

Miss.Stefanie April 21, 2010 at 10:12 PM  

Youre heart gives itself away though :(

RoByn LaTice April 22, 2010 at 11:41 AM  

It does give itself away. But I completly agree with you. I always give this advice but them forget that I've been there done that..and if i had to do it again, i wouldnt hesitate.

phallatio April 23, 2010 at 5:32 PM  

Why do women 'give' their heart to a man?

You say, "Don't let him have your heart ..." You're right. He doesn't need your heart. He wants you to love him, but you don't have to give him your heart. You don't have to throw yourself lock, stock and barrel into this one love affair.

If you place all your eggs in one basket, you are asking for trouble. Don't give your 'all' to a man. Keep some for yourself, keep some for your family, keep some for your friends, and keep a little back in case someone better comes along!